The Blame Game

I love kids!!

Truly. I love children. They are innocent creatures that have the whole world ahead of them. They have big dreams, wide smiles, infectious laughter, loving hugs, and energy for days. I can’t wait until I have kids of my own. My love for children is why it pains me to see all of these soft parents running around these days.

Yes, I just stepped on someone’s toes. In fact, I stepped on plenty of people’s toes. I happened to read a comment where the person said a childless person’s opinion should matter very little to a parent. That irked me, and that’s one of many problems facing our kids today.

The parents are soft, and selfish.

“I raise my kids how I want!!” Well, how’s that working out for you? Your pride will raise up and say, “IT’S GREAT!!” However, if you really told yourself the truth, then you’d realize you’ve probably made some major mistakes with your kid. Some will be quick to say, “Well, it’s my kid.” Does that make the mistake better? I guess it does.

Not all parents are soft and selfish. I know. Some actually allow people to love their children. After all, it takes a village. At heart, most of the parents I run into love their children unconditionally. However, I don’t like this ‘mind your own child” mindset. I read this way too much. Take this child for example.

That’s nuts! That little girl lost it while her mom stood there and paid in change. LOL, I do find the calm ignoring to be funny. However, what was the mother supposed to do? In this day and age of secret smartphone recording, the mother would have been all over social media as the worst parent on earth. Add the fact that this is a black family, and the comments section would turn into Hiroshima. Still, something needs to be done with this child. I read plenty of sentiments along the same lines.

A whole bunch of people would have torn that backside up!! It appears that flipping out, screaming, and acting a complete nut in the middle of the store is completely unacceptable behavior.

To some.

Whenever I see these type of videos the comments section turns into a battlefield on how to parent, if spanking should be used, and judgement. And rest assured, you will hear more than a couple of parents/people/relatives screaming about mental health. You know what?

That. Gets. On. My. Nerves!!!

Yes, people who use mental health as an excuse for bad behavior irritate me to no end. This is coming from an aspiring clinical psychologist. While Autism and Asperger’s syndrome is very real, not every child tantrum or meltdown is because of these diseases. Quite frankly, it’s a disservice to the children who are actually dealing with these syndromes to mislabel other kids who simply need discipline. It’s completely irresponsible. Yet, so many people do it.

Think about this. Autism, Asperger’s, and Sensory Processing Disorder are already, in some cases severe, syndromes that carry a lifelong label. These children have to learn how to cope with activities we take for granted. Walking into a store, being in control of our emotions (some of us need to work on that), communicating (some adults need work on that too), etc. We don’t think anything of these things because we live a normal life. These children do not live that life. However, they can learn. They can be helped. Throwing these terms around with reckless abandon at kids who clearly do not have symptoms of such is ridiculous. Stop making excuses for unacceptable behavior. Raise your child (even if they have these syndromes) to love and respect one another.

Be. A. Parent.

Now, I’m sure I’ll get ridiculed about this one. After all, I don’t have kids. So, what do I know? Right? My opinion should mean very little to parents.